Are you suffering from information overload? It's so easy isn't it?
We sit at our computers and it's too much!!!
Here is a great article I just read reminding us of the basics...
How am I feeling? When you really learn how to do that, your life can be transformed..
Check out..www.robblackburn.co.uk/2010/02/advice-overload/-
"Even though I am feeling........(............)......I deeply and completely love and accept myself".
Thank you, once again, to Gary Craig, for such an elegant and useful tool...
Friday, 5 February 2010
Friday, 29 January 2010
5 Tapping Tips for the Day
- Tap before a troublesome phone call/email/visit...
"Even though I don't want to make this phone call/email/visit, I deeply and completely love and accept myself..."
- a round of all the negatives, "don't like", "scared", resistant", whatever your feelings are.
- a round of positives, "I'm strong and confident", "This easy phone call", whatever works...
2. Tap under the shower
"Even though I don't know what the day will bring, I love and accept myself completely.."
- "don't know", "worried about this", whatever any blocks to complete joy might be in that moment
- "I look forward with excitement to this day", "I embrace all that it will bring", "I look forward to being kind today", whatever you feel like in the moment...
3. Mentally Tap around your eyes as you drive. This will give you clarity and focus.
4. The Gratitude Tapping. Morning, noon or night. You choose. It's the important one.
5. Someone upsets you? you know what to do. Take responsibility and deal with it. After all, if you love and accept yourself completely.....
What in the world...
Have been quiet for the last while on the blogging front. Sometimes family just takes over and this was never meant to be a confessional blog. Since I last wrote both my children have left home, one to University and one to a residential home. And what am I left with? the world....
After a few weeks of picking things up off the floor, (the younger one went a bit mad), and a few weeks of working on my tan and doing nothing, I delved (dove?) back into cyberspace and discovered.....
After a few weeks of picking things up off the floor, (the younger one went a bit mad), and a few weeks of working on my tan and doing nothing, I delved (dove?) back into cyberspace and discovered.....
- friends
- strangers who became friends...
- tips
- tips that became friends...
- some wierd things
- an online exam...
What in the world is there out there? everything.
I invite you to join me in discovering that everything.
Sunday, 8 February 2009
Death is in the air
The other day, I took my daughter to a local shop. She had asked to go to this shop partly, I believe, because of the lovely welcoming atmosphere created by the owner, Sheena. To buy new underwear from Sheena (it's lingerie shop), means to be cossetted in care. This is a local lady who knows her customers. It is very comforting.
However, even as I opened the door and heard the tinkling of the bell, I knew something had happened. Death was in the air. It was as if a big vacuum cleaner had come along and sucked up all the life-force in an instant.
Sheena was with someone behind a rack. I knew they had stopped talking as soon as we came in and I knew that Sheena was making an almighty effort to appear and serve us. Had I been on my own I would have excused myself and left. But because I was with my autistic daughter, and because I have a habit of putting her needs first, we persevered. As my daughter was in the changing room, I asked Sheena if she was alright. She told me a friend's young child had just died. My intuition had been correct.
As we left, I mentally tapped on the whole shop, the circle of friends who were whispering together, and on the sense of loss. Gary Craig (EFT) says, "Try it on everything", and I did. I don't know if it helped them, but it helped me. Even at a distance, and without knowing anything more than the bare facts, I felt my tapping was contributing, the way that prayer does.
And in the end, isn't connection what we all long for?
However, even as I opened the door and heard the tinkling of the bell, I knew something had happened. Death was in the air. It was as if a big vacuum cleaner had come along and sucked up all the life-force in an instant.
Sheena was with someone behind a rack. I knew they had stopped talking as soon as we came in and I knew that Sheena was making an almighty effort to appear and serve us. Had I been on my own I would have excused myself and left. But because I was with my autistic daughter, and because I have a habit of putting her needs first, we persevered. As my daughter was in the changing room, I asked Sheena if she was alright. She told me a friend's young child had just died. My intuition had been correct.
As we left, I mentally tapped on the whole shop, the circle of friends who were whispering together, and on the sense of loss. Gary Craig (EFT) says, "Try it on everything", and I did. I don't know if it helped them, but it helped me. Even at a distance, and without knowing anything more than the bare facts, I felt my tapping was contributing, the way that prayer does.
And in the end, isn't connection what we all long for?
Saturday, 25 October 2008
How to change your world
Quite a blog title, how to change your world.
What would you write with a title like that? It is so huge to be almost meaningless. I mean there are a million ways to change your world. You could keep up with your accounts, or give more to charity or start saying no or clean behind your cooker......Anything and everything changes your world, so what do I mean?
There is one simple step to change your world, and my world, and it is to make EFT part of our daily life. It is so simple and so profound. If you don't know what EFT is, go to http://www.eft4change.co.uk/ or http://www.emofree.com/ to find out. Use the simple power of tapping on the meridians while bringing an issue to mind, to help you feel better. That in itself will change your world. While tapping on the side of your hand say the words, "Even though I'm feeling ....(fill in with how you feel), I deeply and completely love and accept myself". Then tap round the points with "this feeling". Its basic EFT and it works. Things shift. You shift.
If you go deeper, on your own, or with a practitioner, there is no knowing where it might take you. When we heal ourselves, we can help others and that's how we heal the world. That's the kind of change I want to see and that's why I've called this post, "How to change your world".
What would you write with a title like that? It is so huge to be almost meaningless. I mean there are a million ways to change your world. You could keep up with your accounts, or give more to charity or start saying no or clean behind your cooker......Anything and everything changes your world, so what do I mean?
There is one simple step to change your world, and my world, and it is to make EFT part of our daily life. It is so simple and so profound. If you don't know what EFT is, go to http://www.eft4change.co.uk/ or http://www.emofree.com/ to find out. Use the simple power of tapping on the meridians while bringing an issue to mind, to help you feel better. That in itself will change your world. While tapping on the side of your hand say the words, "Even though I'm feeling ....(fill in with how you feel), I deeply and completely love and accept myself". Then tap round the points with "this feeling". Its basic EFT and it works. Things shift. You shift.
If you go deeper, on your own, or with a practitioner, there is no knowing where it might take you. When we heal ourselves, we can help others and that's how we heal the world. That's the kind of change I want to see and that's why I've called this post, "How to change your world".
Wednesday, 1 October 2008
That time of night...
For me, it's 9.30pm., that time when an almost irrestible urge to crunch and munch comes upon me. In fact, when I feel it I almost don't have to look at the clock. If that longing comes upon me, I know its 9.30pm!
What time is it for you? Most of us have a need some time in the day for that extra help. Perhaps its a biscuit at teatime (this is an English blog so to translate- perhaps a cookie mid-afternoon!), a drink when you come in from work, a cigarette before you can start that project. Perhaps for you its stronger and darker. The need all comes from the same root though. Something in our life is missing. We feel some anxiety and we want to put something in our system that we think will give us what we think we need. You know what I'm talking about. Comfort, support, excitement, energy....
When this happens, I tap. Using EFT http://www.emofree.com/ I can manage those blips. I can not only deal with the immediate craving, but move quite quickly into recognising what is going on underneath, what emotion I'm squashing....
"Even though I'm feeling this oh so familiar desire to crunch, I accept myself fully".......Tap tap tap. Oh yes, I'm tired. Oh yes, I feel irritated by that conversation I had earlier which is lurking under the surface....It could be ANYTHING. Sadness, frustration, overwhelm- all will have us reaching for our product of choice...If you don't know about tapping, look it up FAST. It could save your life. It will certainly get you through those times when stuffing or drinking or smoking or using seems the only way.....and help you on your onward path.
So whatever time is your "crunch" time, tap, tap, tap.....
What time is it for you? Most of us have a need some time in the day for that extra help. Perhaps its a biscuit at teatime (this is an English blog so to translate- perhaps a cookie mid-afternoon!), a drink when you come in from work, a cigarette before you can start that project. Perhaps for you its stronger and darker. The need all comes from the same root though. Something in our life is missing. We feel some anxiety and we want to put something in our system that we think will give us what we think we need. You know what I'm talking about. Comfort, support, excitement, energy....
When this happens, I tap. Using EFT http://www.emofree.com/ I can manage those blips. I can not only deal with the immediate craving, but move quite quickly into recognising what is going on underneath, what emotion I'm squashing....
"Even though I'm feeling this oh so familiar desire to crunch, I accept myself fully".......Tap tap tap. Oh yes, I'm tired. Oh yes, I feel irritated by that conversation I had earlier which is lurking under the surface....It could be ANYTHING. Sadness, frustration, overwhelm- all will have us reaching for our product of choice...If you don't know about tapping, look it up FAST. It could save your life. It will certainly get you through those times when stuffing or drinking or smoking or using seems the only way.....and help you on your onward path.
So whatever time is your "crunch" time, tap, tap, tap.....
Thursday, 24 July 2008
The Dawning
How long does it take to make a judgement about someone? Almost no time at all. We see them and instantaneously we have them pigeon-holed. Fat, middleclass, expensive hair, worried, ugly, gorgeous, nice shoes, fanciable, not fanciable, haughty, trashy..........Usually we either instintively feel good about someone or bad. We are comfortable in their presence, or not. We want to be nearer or keep our distance....our radar is constantly on the alert.
What about our children? How long does it take for people to make a judgement about them? Almost no time at all. They are the ones who are screaming in the supermarket, pulling down their pants in public, saying out loud "that lady's got a big belly". They are the ones standing too close to the next person in line, grabbing a spade in the sandpit, staring at the shop assistant. And the judgements? Naughty child, bad mother, she makes me uncomfortable, can't they control him? And we feel bad.
When someone has a visible disability, we see it instantly.
When someone has autism, we don't, but we still make a judgement.
When I am out with my daughter, I hold her hand. Why? She is fifteen and she is not a runner. I don't need to hold her hand. But I do. It took some soul searching to understand why I do this. I would like to think that I do it for safety. Well, partly, when we cross the road. Perhaps I just never got out of the habit from when she was little? Possibly, but that's not all. I realise I do it mainly so that people have an instant filter when they see us. "Teenage girl ... looks normal ....but having her hand held by woman old enough to be her Mother.... must have something wrong with her.......I feel ....disdain/compassion/understanding/distanced......"
It works. I reckon it takes about a second and a half for "the dawning". As soon as the "this person is different" thought kicks in, we are in differnt territory. I am lucky. We live in a small town so usually that territory means kindness and allowances made for her "oddness".
But what for the children who look "normal" but who are simply unable to act "normal".
There is no "dawning", just judgement.
And it is a brave parent who can cope with that.
What about our children? How long does it take for people to make a judgement about them? Almost no time at all. They are the ones who are screaming in the supermarket, pulling down their pants in public, saying out loud "that lady's got a big belly". They are the ones standing too close to the next person in line, grabbing a spade in the sandpit, staring at the shop assistant. And the judgements? Naughty child, bad mother, she makes me uncomfortable, can't they control him? And we feel bad.
When someone has a visible disability, we see it instantly.
When someone has autism, we don't, but we still make a judgement.
When I am out with my daughter, I hold her hand. Why? She is fifteen and she is not a runner. I don't need to hold her hand. But I do. It took some soul searching to understand why I do this. I would like to think that I do it for safety. Well, partly, when we cross the road. Perhaps I just never got out of the habit from when she was little? Possibly, but that's not all. I realise I do it mainly so that people have an instant filter when they see us. "Teenage girl ... looks normal ....but having her hand held by woman old enough to be her Mother.... must have something wrong with her.......I feel ....disdain/compassion/understanding/distanced......"
It works. I reckon it takes about a second and a half for "the dawning". As soon as the "this person is different" thought kicks in, we are in differnt territory. I am lucky. We live in a small town so usually that territory means kindness and allowances made for her "oddness".
But what for the children who look "normal" but who are simply unable to act "normal".
There is no "dawning", just judgement.
And it is a brave parent who can cope with that.
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